What to do when your heart can’t get past the Beauty Standard?
In recent years, it has become clear that the world has become more open to the idea of inclusive beauty. Driven by celebrities and the media, who are helping to push the concept to break down the beauty standards that have been the norm for so many years.
Advertisements across industries that have traditionally featured slim. Fair-skinned models are being supplemented with images of people of diverse body types, skin colors, genders, ages, and ethnicities to make a statement and inspire people to love who they are.
The fact that the คาสิโนออนไลน์ UFABET ฝากถอนรวดเร็ว เริ่มต้นเล่นง่าย media and important people have come out to speak out about. This issue is a good sign for changing the beauty values that have been instilled for a long time. However, for some people, being satisfied and seeing their own self-esteem to the fullest is not easy due to many factors. Such as the society around them or events that have created deep wounds in their minds.
Today, if you still can’t get over it, we want you to know that ‘It’s okay…you are not alone’. Don’t force yourself to accept yourself 100% if you are not ready. Just try to adjust your thoughts little by little, understand your feelings a little each day. You will definitely find a new beauty in your own way.
You’re Unique
There are 8 billion people in the world today, and you are one of those 8 billion who are created differently. Not only in your appearance, but also in your personality, your habits, and your voice. Everything about you is unique. So stop comparing yourself to others. It’s no wonder that you are different from them. At the same time, others cannot imitate who you are.
Embrace Your Imperfection
When we see someone’s picture on social media and exclaim, “She’s so perfect,” we feel a little bit inferior to ourselves. The question is, what is the criteria for what is perfect? If we ask the same question to a hundred people, will we get the same answer?
The images of our physical appearance in the media (most of which have been edited) can make us see our bodies as abnormal. Whether it’s a folded stomach when sitting, stretch marks, gaps between teeth, a protruding chin, dark armpits and groin, frizzy hair, acne-prone skin, visible pores, uncountable wrinkles, etc. All of these flaws that we see as ‘natural’ human bodies and can happen to anyone. If we can view our bodies with neutrality ( Body Neutrality ) and accept that our flesh is impermanent. We will feel better about ourselves.
Beauty Has No Definition
If we look back into the past, we will see that the definition of beauty has changed with the times. What people considered beautiful in one era may not be beautiful in another era. Today, beauty values in each country are still completely different. Therefore, you can define beauty in any way you want without worrying that the world will not accept it. Because our world does not have a fixed definition of beauty.
The Point of Being Beautiful
It’s not unusual to want to look good, but I’d like you to ask yourself again. What do you want to look good for? One of the ideas that the author often asks himself is. If one day we have the appearance that we want, to the point where we can say with confidence, “I’m beautiful,” but we have to live alone where no one sees us, and we don’t have to meet anyone, will we still be satisfied? It may not be a 100% comparable issue, but it’s a question that always reminds the author.
In short, you have the freedom to choose to pamper yourself to look your best, as long as it doesn’t affect your mental health, harm yourself, or cause trouble to others.
And if one day you start to feel like you’re not yourself anymore or that you’re doing it to please someone, you should reconsider this point.
The Beauty of Charisma
If we look beyond appearance, there are many other things that can help you look good, such as ability, attitude, speech, or passion, all of which are combined to form ‘charm’ that reflects your identity and lasts longer than external things.
An excerpt from the book The Charisma Factor, written by Leesa Rowland, reveals how to enhance your charisma in an impressive way.
“ Looks aren’t that important. To be charming, you don’t have to be the best looking person in the room. On the contrary, you should be magnetic. It’s true that looking good is an advantage, but it’s not a quality of being charming. There are many people who don’t have great looks, but they are very charming and have a sparkling personality that millions of people want to follow. So, charm goes beyond appearances. It reflects from within.”
Break Free from Toxic Cycles
“Why are you so fat? What have you been doing? When will you lose weight? Why is your face full of acne? Don’t you wash your face properly? Your teeth are so crooked. If you get braces, you’ll look so much prettier. If you’re this dark, don’t wear a white shirt. The color will fade.”
At first, we may not feel so bad about ourselves until the day we are stimulated by the comments of people around us. The worst thing is that in some cases, it is caused by people close to us or even family members.
As a writer who has experienced this issue firsthand, both being bullied and being praised about our bodies on the day we changed ourselves, it makes us see that society is really good at criticizing. Anyone can say whatever they want and claim that this is freedom of expression. When you think about it, it’s true, but criticizing and making others suffer is probably not a nice thing, because you don’t know what the people you criticize are going through behind the scenes.
The way to deal with these people is to first understand the intention of the speaker. If it sounds like they mean well, we can handle it by listening, but we don’t have to put too much pressure on ourselves. If the words of someone close to us sound too hurtful, try to open up and talk directly.
For those who you sense are just trying to have fun talking, we recommend distancing yourself from that cycle. Your time is too valuable to absorb the toxicity of toxic people.
Love Yourself
When we love someone, we want to give good things to that person. The same goes for ourselves. Saying nice things to ourselves every day, whether it’s complimenting ourselves, giving ourselves small rewards, can help build good physical and mental health in the long run.
Many times, you may be unconsciously cruel to yourself by pressuring, scolding, or belittling yourself in various ways, which will certainly have negative effects on both your physical and mental health in the long run.
Health is Everything
Life needs balance. Anything too loose or too tight is not good. No matter what you are doing for yourself today, always remind yourself that health is the most important thing . What is the point if one day you have the perfect appearance in your opinion, but end up in a hospital bed for the rest of your life?
The author had a near-death experience from taking diet pills that were heavily advertised in the online world at one point. And I must thank the voice in my heart that shouted, “Stop if you don’t want to die.” The period of taking the pills without thinking, not caring about the well-wishes of those around me for 6 years caused the author to struggle to pay for the karma with his body for more than 7 years in order to recover from the yo-yo effect and various illnesses that plagued him, which made us really remember that having good health is the best gift.
Practice Gratitude
Constantly focusing on your appearance can cause you to lose sight of the world around you. Put that aside for a moment and look around you to see what you’re grateful for today. It could be a meal your significant other or family cooked for you, a smoother commute, a performance at work that met your goals, or even just waking up each day. Practicing gratitude can help you see the world in a more positive light.
There is More to Life
“I have to be beautiful in time for my wedding in the next 3 months, I have to lose 10 kilograms this year.”
You may have many goals for the future, and that’s not wrong, but the truth is, we all never know if there will still be a tomorrow. Many times, we forget to ‘enjoy’ what we have now because we are too attached to the future. Try to change your perspective, live in the present more, and you will see that there are many more important things in life than just external beauty.